Even if you have been living under a rock for the past couple of day, you have heard that Phil Robertson, of Duck Dynasty fame, has announced an ethnic gay cleansing against… gays. Not really, but that will be the tone of the level of hysteria that will be pumped through cyberspace in the next couple of days.
Because my opinion is of high value, #NotReally, I thought I would prompt my opinions with some unique observations from others who are not Christians but share similar opinions. My own post will follow this post tomorrow.
Being Against Gay Marriage Doesn’t Make You a Homophobe
Some people just aren’t sure about marriage equality—but their reasoning isn’t necessarily a reflection of their character.
“Then Raushenbush hauled out a familiar argument: “Let’s just be very clear here —if you are against marriage equality you are anti-gay. Done.”
“As a gay man, I found myself disappointed with this definition—that anyone with any sort of moral reservations about gay marriage is by definition anti-gay. If Raushenbush is right, then that means my parents are anti-gay, many of my religious friends (of all faiths) are anti-gay, the Pope is anti-gay, and—yes, we’ll go here—first-century, Jewish theologian Jesus is anti-gay. That’s despite the fact that while some religious people don’t support gay marriage in a sacramental sense, many of them are in favor of same-sex civil unions and full rights for the parties involved. To be sure, most gay people, myself included, won’t be satisfied until our loving, monogamous relationships are graced with the word “marriage.” But it’s important to recall that many religious individuals do support strong civil rights for the gay members of their communities.”
If it’s “anti-gay” to question the arguments of marriage-equality advocates, and if the word “homophobic” is exhausted on me or on polite dissenters, then what should we call someone who beats up gay people, or prefers not to hire them? Disagreement is not the same thing as discrimination. Our language ought to reflect that distinction.
To me, recognizing the distinction between opposing gay marriage and opposing gay people is a natural outgrowth of an internal distinction: When it comes to my identity, I take care not to reduce myself to my sexual orientation. Sure, it’s a huge part of who I am, but I see myself to be larger than my sexual expression: I contain my gayness; it doesn’t contain me. If it’s true that my gayness is not the most fundamental aspect of my identity as Brandon, then it seems to me that someone could ideologically disapprove of my sexual expression while simultaneously loving and affirming my larger identity.
And here is an audio clip from the radio show, Opie and Anthony. I share this clip because the hosts of the show are not Christians and are for gay marriage but they hold freedom of speech and Liberty paramount. Be warned, they can be abrasive and they use language that some will find offensive. I post this because they share my opinions of freedom of speech but approach them from a different perspective. They totally disagree with my beliefs and the beliefs of Phil Robertson but they are standing behind his right to say what he wants.